You’re the groom facing the prospect of being roasted by
your closest friends and family members. Whether you’re pumped about a night on
the town with the boys or trembling in your boots at the thought of surviving
your bachelor party, this guide is for you.
When to party?
Any day at all, but under no circumstances should your
bachelor party be held the night before your wedding. Typically, the bachelor
party is held on the second last Friday or Saturday night before the wedding,
or two to three weeks in advance.
Mild versus wild
Before the party proper, discuss the tone of the evening
with your best man. Defining the tone in advance is important since it will not
be possible to do so on the night of the party. At the end of the night, you
want a party that’s going to be a blast for you and keep you out of the dog
house with your princess. Keeping in mind that your best man isn’t likely to
know all of the attendees, setting the tone will also help the best man give
guests a heads-up in terms of what to expect.
Who to invite?
You and the best man should also sit down and hash out the
guest list. As a general rule, twenty is a good number. Anything more than
that, and it will be too difficult to control if things get out of hand.
One of the easiest ways to coordinate the bachelor party is with an E-invite,
or better yet, create an event on Facebook. That way, the best man can let
everyone know what’s on the agenda for the party, while the event page can also
help him keep track of who will be attending.
Get a Room!
Whether you are having a mild or wild bachelor party, we
highly recommend that you not return to your actual home after the late
partying. Spend the extra cash and get a room. The next morning you can recover
on your own, without having to worry about what your bride will think. It’s a
critical but often overlooked piece of advice.
What happens in Vegas (or anywhere else)…
Nothing will ruin a wild bachelor party like talkative Tony
blabbing all about it to his girlfriend who is best friends with your bride.
What happens at the wild bachelor party stays etched in memory alone. It’s an
unspoken rule.
One of the best parts of planning a bachelor party is
keeping the groom in the dark about some of it. Once the best man and the groom
have laid out the ground rules for the night, the best man will feel free to
plan some surprises within that framework. You didn’t specifically say that you
won’t put on a dress and beg hot chicks for kisses? Too bad for you. You need
to be ready to dive in and roll with any surprises that come your way.
Stay out of the doghouse
We’ve heard more than our share of stories about drunken
grooms stumbling home to their bride, or worse, their future mother-in-law. A good best man will have a plan laid out to
prevent a situation that could best be described as ‘awkward’. With that being said,
be a man. If there is something that you don’t feel comfortable with, you
should express it to the best man in advance of the bachelor party.
You’re only going to get one shot at having a
bachelor party. Get ready for the ride of your life!
