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When your significant other drops down on one
knee and stares deep into your eyes, you instinctively know that that this
moment will be one for the books. They’ll ask the life-changing question and
then proffers a box with a ring that, unfortunately, doesn’t sweep you off your feet. The magical moment then suddenly
comes to a screeching halt. A dilemma suddenly presents itself – you don’t
exactly like the engagement ring they
chose, what should you do?
If this situation sounds familiar, you’re not
the only one. Many brides often land themselves in the exact predicament. Let’s
face it: shopping for a gift is already hard as it is, let alone shopping for
something as momentous and symbolic as an engagement ring?
As a result, many brides would rather keep
silent about these displeasures than hurt their fiancé’s feelings. Fortunately,
there are a few ways to help you better navigate this tricky and delicate
situation. Here are four of them!
1. Give It Time
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If it wasn’t love at first sight, simply let the
ring sit on your finger to see whether it grows on you. While it may not be the
ring of your dreams, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t grow to love
it.
To things easier, try asking your partner why
they opted for that specific ring in the first place. Perhaps something
interesting happened during their hunt for your engagement ring, or it looks
similar to the ring that their mother wears. Knowing the reason behind their
choice may change your views towards the ring, making you view it in a more
favourable light.
2. Communicate It With Your Partner
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Even though it’s nerve-wracking, perhaps the
best approach is simply having an open conversation with your partner. If the
disappointment can’t be abated with time, it will only accumulate and
potentially sour your relationship. To prevent such a conflict, timely
communication is crucial.
Raise the subject in private and do so in a
loving and open manner. Given the delicateness of the matter, starting the
conversation when you’re feeling upset will only cause everything to spiral
downwards. It’s a total plan for disaster.
Start by acknowledging the love and
consideration underlying the purchase and clarify that it’s never an attack on
their choice nor your intention to hurt their feelings. If your significant
other still feels offended otherwise, allow some time for both of you to cool
off first before probing the subject at a later time again. However, don’t let
the issue fester for too long. As the golden rule of couples’ conflict
management states: “Never go to bed angry with someone you love.”
3. Modify Your Ring
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At the end of the day, you don’t want to dismiss
the ring that your partner painstakingly chose. Simultaneously, you also don’t
want to wear a ring you dislike every single day either. Strive to reach the
middle ground by modifying your ring!
You may want to choose a new band entirely, and
use the original band to create your wedding band for instance. Alternatively, you could opt for
a ring enhancer to transform it into a brilliant engagement ring that fits your
fancy.
Since it’s no longer a surprise, you can ask
your partner for their opinions. This way, nobody will be left out, and the two
of you can include both of your sentiments in this emblematic token of love.
4. If It’s About The Rock, It’s Best Not To Voice It Out
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As the adage goes, “Honesty is the best policy.”
In most cases, this is applicable – but this is not one of those instances. If
you’re disappointed by the carat (or the lack of) or the poor quality of your
gem, you’ll want to keep such feelings to yourself.
Voicing it out is akin to alluding that your
partner’s choice was inadequate. You wouldn’t want to invalidate your partner
over the purchase and, by extension, their personal finances or what they
thought best suited you.
It’s worth remembering that the ring doesn’t
matter in the bigger scope of things. After all, you’re marrying the love of
your life, not your engagement ring. Besides, the engagement ring is but a
small puzzle piece in the grand scheme of the future – specifically, your
marital union.
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In the upcoming months, you’ll need to figure
out a thorough wedding planning checklist with
all the necessities set in place. This means your priority is to secure vendors
for your wedding venue, catering and bridal gown rental, amongst many other things. In fact, you can
take this opportunity to make up for your engagement ring with a hunt for the
perfect n bands together!
At Blissful Brides, we understand how stressful
and overwhelming wedding preparations can be, which is why we’re here to help!
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